Thursday, 30 April 2009

Yesterday

Yesterday, over at my parents' house, I caught sight of a picture of a beautiful young girl on the front page of The Daily Telegraph.
As I read in and on, getting deeper into the article I suddenly realised that I knew her father. He used to treat me when I came back and forth from Egypt.

I went to see him when I suspected that I might be pregnant. He did a test and confirmed it for me. My blood pressure rate was sky high. He asked me "what's the matter?" I confessed that I was a little apprehensive about becoming a parent for the first time. His immediate response was: "Don't be worried! It's fantastic being a parent. Children are wonderful!" His reaction filled me with hope and wonder.

And he was absolutely right.

I've been thinking about him and his family ever since yesterday. And this came on the radio today. Somehow the two things are linked now as though with indelible ink:

Yesterday,
All my troubles seemed so far away,
Now it looks as though they're here to stay,
Oh, I believe in yesterday.

Suddenly,
I'm not half the man I used to be,
There's a shadow hanging over me,
Oh, yesterday came suddenly.

Why she
Had to go I don't know, she wouldn't say.
I said,
Something wrong, now I long for yesterday.

Yesterday,
Love was such an easy game to play,
Now I need a place to hide away,
Oh, I believe in yesterday.

Why she
Had to go I don't know, she wouldn't say.
I said,
Something wrong, now I long for yesterday.

Yesterday,
Love was such an easy game to play,
Now I need a place to hide away,
Oh, I believe in yesterday.

Mm-mm-mm-mm-mm-mm-mm.


My heart and thoughts go out to them.

17 comments:

Maggie May said...

Oh no! That is terrible. I saw it on the news. Awful when you know someone who knows them. No matter how remote this makes it for me........ it completely takes away the anonymity of the whole thing.
terrible that the drug is still legal.

Yorkshire Pudding said...

Hessie...what a strange name. Is it short for something? What an awful story. No parent should have to live with the death of a son or a daughter. They should be putting us into our graves.. not the other way round.

The Dotterel said...

Tragic.

Hadriana's Treasures said...

Yes, Maggie, I was very shocked. It looks like someone put it into her drink without her knowing. What an absolute waste of life!

YP, I think it is short for Hester...yes, I don't think I even want to imagine what it must feel like...

I did not want to blog about this but I feel compelled to write about it nevertheless. Death and life are so intrinsically entwined. I cannot stop thinking about it.

Hadriana's Treasures said...

Yes, The Dotterel. She was a beautiful and talented girl. I suppose I have put this in here so we can nag our children to be careful but it is impossible to wrap them in cotton wool unfortunately.

rosiero said...

Such a sad story. If the girl was so anti-drugs, it begs the question as to whether it was slipped to her without her knowing (ie in a drink). I fear for Kay sometimes as she will be at uni soon and exposed to the same dangers. All we can do is hope.

Ladybird World Mother said...

So so sad. Feel so much for her poor parents and family. Nothing, just nothing could be worse. Will pray like mad for them all. XX

French Fancy said...

Oh that poor poor family. How come there are legal 'party' drugs. What are 'party' drugs? I wonder why as a medical student she wasn't more aware of the dangers of things like this. I know that makes me sound cold-hearted (I'm not though - just surprised).

Sad and a waste.

French Fancy said...

sorry - just read the comment about someone putting it into her drink - maybe it makes the family feel better for thinking that is what happened. I dunno.

(Very) Lost in France said...

How truly awful. Drug use is so widespread among the young people in France and I dread my children being introduced to them VLiF

Sandi McBride said...

How heart breaking. As a Med student, you'd have thought she would know...as a child I guess she figured it couldn't happen to her...so sad, so sad
Sandi

Crystal Jigsaw said...

Yes, it is awful to hear something like this. A parent's nightmare.

CJ xx

Maternal Tales said...

I live in Brigthon and went to Sussex University as well (a few years ago!)and so it's been big news here. It's just too tragic. The poor parents. I can't imagine how they must be feeling...

Hadriana's Treasures said...

Appreciate all of your comments. I don't know...it feels like a friend of the family. Weird but true. H xx xx

French Fancy said...

Hope the training is going well - I do admire you, I'd have no discpline

x

Suburbia said...

How awful. We should never outlive our children.

A Woman Of No Importance said...

Hadriana, this is certainly very sad, and there is little we can do to protect our young ones from having their drinks spiked - Other than insisting they drink from bottles and never let the bottle leave their sight for one moment - And use those bottle topper things that you can still drink from, but they protect the top from being tampered with...

I worry that the legalising of cannabis made many teens believe it is okay to do drugs... And at that age, they think they are invincible...

I am sorry for this family that you knew, and for your loss... Any loss of children and young people is a tragedy. Love to you, and light for healing xo